A Mother’s Nightmare, A Child’s Terror, A Hole in Justice

–First published November 11, 2013 in another publication.

Warning – This article contains graphic descriptions of a small boy’s repeat sexual abuse, including attempted suffocation and perversions. I have used the victim’s own words in the descriptions.

Please read April 28, 2014 follow-up article by clicking here.

Update – On January 7, 2015, Tahoe Wiseman was sentenced to serve out his full 80 week sentence for multiple violations of his SSODA disposition, and for flunking a lie detector test about his sex life.  Wiseman admitted to using drugs and having sex with multiple underage girls.  At his sentencing, Wiseman blamed his behavior on my articles.

Tahoe Wiseman is currently suing me for defamation and emotional distress because of these articles.

Here is the original article from November 11, 2013 –

“Mom, he told me not to tell you.”

Thank God he finally told. With those words, a five year old could have saved his own life.

But that doesn’t make up for what has occurred in the seven months since that day.

As soon as the victim’s mother learned what had happened to her little boy, she immediately called the Thurston County Sheriff and Child Protective Services. A protective order was issued to keep the molester away from her son. She did everything she could have done.

But then everything went terribly wrong.

Since the molester was seventeen years old, he was still considered a juvenile, in the eyes of the courts. With a juvenile’s protections.

The molester’s father had been engaged to the victim’s mother. The wedding had been planned for this past summer. That was before the truth came out. The multiple attacks had occurred when the mother wasn’t there. The molester’s father said he had no idea. The victim’s mother ended the engagement.

This was the kind of mom who raised her own chickens, made soap, and grew organic vegetables. She didn’t drink except for an occasional glass of wine. She didn’t allow a TV in her home. She had tried to do everything right.

She had thought that the justice system was there to stand up for victims like her little boy. And to punish the bad guys.

She had done her best to be a stand-in mom for her fiance’s son—the molester. She went to his parent-teacher conferences and soccer games. She helped him with his homework. She made him do chores, follow rules, brush his teeth, eat his vegetables. She took him to the doctor and dentist, where he would introduce her as his mom.

She had treated him as if he were her own son. She had hope and faith. She knew that he was a troubled teen, but she thought that, in time, all of her time and attention would turn him around.

He repaid her by ruining her little boy’s life. Facebook posts and eyewitness accounts in the months after his arrest showed no remorse…until he needed to make a series of sad displays for his defense attorney, probation officer, and judge. My husband and I watched one of these displays in the courtroom.

We didn’t buy it. We doubted that many people would.

Still, the courtroom “experts” bought the molester’s remorse gig, and that was all that mattered.

The Crimes –

The five year old explained that, during the attacks, his molester would smother him to keep him from screaming by plugging both his mouth and nose, cutting off his air.

If the teen had just wanted to silence his small victim, he wouldn’t have needed to plug his nose, too. He could have kept him silent and still let him breathe. But, according to his victim, he didn’t.

The little victim still has night terrors, and screams in his bed—sometimes several times a night. He’s afraid his attacker will come back and smother him. Even though he now lives over a thousand miles away.

All the child’s mother can do now is hold him, and tell him it’s over.

The five-year-old also described how his attacker would take him into the bathroom and smear feces on his little face. The victim then described how he was forced to rub his attacker’s pee-pee when it was really big. The little boy described how the teen would then pee white. And make the little boy promise, again, not to scream or tell his Mom. Or he would get it.

To back up that threat, the teen said he would hold the little boy’s face in a sink full of water.

The five year old also described how his attacker would hold him down on the bed and gag him. The attacker would force his tongue into the little boy’s mouth, until the child choked and vomited.

According to the victim’s mother, in addition to night terrors and other trauma, her son is now fanatical about hand washing and cleanliness. He also wants to be cleaned scrupulously after a bowel movement.

It took nearly four months for the little victim to see a counselor through Thurston County. There was a backlog. He had waited nearly two weeks to be interviewed, after the call to the police.

The child’s mother says that therapists reported that her son’s reactions are consistent with the effects of the abuse that he described. The young victim did not live in a house with a TV, so he wouldn’t have seen anything terrible on TV that he could have confused with his own experiences.

The Punishment –

A few days after the police were called, the molester confessed his multiple attacks against this little boy to a Thurston County detective.

And between that April confession and his September 30 hearing—except for seven days in juvenile detention, in May—the molester was free and lived as if nothing had ever happened.

The victim’s mother states that, after his confession to the detective, the molester went to school, prom, friend’s houses, went on facebook—nothing changed after his arrest.

He tooled around Tenino on his skateboard, and was seen in the Tenino Thriftway IGA without supervision, in violation of his court order. He lived and worked in Yelm over the summer, without disclosing his arrest to those around him. His father didn’t disclose the arrest, either.

The victim’s mother was told that she could not make any public statements or postings about what had happened, or she could face legal action – including being sued by her son’s molester.

She moved back to her home state of Minnesota, to begin her life again, with her children. She was financially devastated at this point, as well as emotionally shattered.

This summer, two witnesses told her they had seen the molester around small children, unsupervised, in violation of his court order. Both witnesses put it in writing.

These statements weren’t part of the court record, though, because both witnesses were afraid to publicly testify in court. They were both afraid of the molester and his friends. So their witness statements didn’t count.

On September 30—nearly six months after his confession—this seventeen year old plead guilty to two felony counts of first degree child molestation. He has registered as a sex offender.

However, he has been classified as a lower-risk Level 1, so his name will not be made public.

And since, at seventeen, he is a still considered a juvenile, his name cannot be released publicly now. Even though he is a double felon who did unspeakable acts to a small, terrified child.

The system protects the molester’s rights very well. And appears to make every effort to build up his self-esteem and flood him with approval.

“An Inconvenience” –

After his guilty pleas in the courtroom, my husband Steve and I watched the molester get hugs. Then we listened to a glowing report from the probation officer, who discussed how “clean” and “clear” the molester’s evaluation was. He said the molester’s evaluation had “nothing but success written on it.” The victim’s mother listened to these words through a speaker phone, in silent horror.

It turned out to mean that, except for thirteen more days in juvie, this double felon would continue to be free. And ten of those days could be on weekends, so he wouldn’t have to miss school.

His total sentence, for two felony counts of first degree child molestation, with multiple attacks against a small boy? Twenty days in juvie. Commissioner Indu Thomas stated that twenty days was “enough.”

Plus he needs to go to weekly therapy sessions for two years. That includes group therapy, where he gets to do cool things like make job connections. Plus, for two years he needs to follow some pretty easy rules—the kinds of rules that a normal teen is expected to live by, anyway. No alcohol, drugs, porn…stuff like that.

The court uses quarterly polygraph tests to monitor this molester’s compliance with his rules. Polygraph tests were also used to come up with his “clean,” “clear,” and “nothing but success” evaluation, as well.

Jeffrey S. Nevid, Ph.D., A.B.P.P., is a Professor of Psychology at St. John’s University in New York. In his book Psychology: Concepts and Application, 4th Edition, he states that “Though the polygraph may occasionally catch a person in a lie, it is not reliable enough to pass scientific muster.” Nevid found that seasoned liars can fib without any telltale signs that would show up on a polygraph.

None of that mattered in this courtroom, though.

Commissioner Indu Thomas told this felon that these rules would be an “inconvenience” in his life.

An inconvenience. The New Age punishment for ruining a small child’s life. And that seemed fair to everyone in the courtroom.

Everyone except the victim’s mother, listening in on the speaker phone and feeling completely helpless…and hopeless. And my husband Steve and me, sitting in the courtroom, stunned. The three of us were complete outsiders to the system. But we were learning fast.

A major factor in this felon’s “clean” and “clear” evaluation with “nothing but success written on it” was that the experts, including Commissioner Indu Thomas, believed that he had repeatedly molested only one small child, so far.

As if that mattered, somehow.

But Commissioner Thomas saw that as one of several “positives” in his evaluation.

So a young pedophile’s first victim is now a gimme? Like drawing the “get out of jail free” card in Monopoly?

Is that the same for all violent crimes? Will young murderers soon get a bye for their first kill?

Then we listened to the molester explain to Commissioner Indu Thomas that he simply hadn’t known that his crime would cause hurt. And that he didn’t “think” he would do it again.

Gee, we sure hope not.

But current research and statistics say that, odds are, he will do it again. Many, many times. Whether he wants to or not. And no matter how much therapy he receives.

But he was evaluated by experts to be “clean” enough to remain out and about in the community, and not cause any trouble. And somehow, in the meantime, the demons in his soul will supposedly get fixed by weekly counseling sessions, including group. Plus, he needs to follow that list of easy rules.

The Community’s Two Year Hitch – Babysitting the Child Molester 24/7 –

The Tenino High School teachers and staff might not be too thrilled about their part in all of this. Not to mention the other parents. The molester is a junior at THS, which means that they have him for the next two years.

That means that, for the next two years—unless the molester brings his own babysitter—Tenino High School staff will be responsible for keeping him constantly within their line of vision while he’s at school, whenever he could be around anyone two years younger than he is. For now, that includes anyone fifteen and under.

Over the next two years, that will include anyone sixteen, then seventeen years old, and younger. Which is pretty much, the entire school population.

How on earth are the teachers and staff at Tenino High School supposed to constantly keep him in sight? With x-ray vision? Do they have to follow him into the bathroom? How can they keep that up for two years? Especially since this molester is stated to have been a disruptive student who would leave the classroom at will.

Will the taxpayers have to foot the bill for a one-on-one babysitter, to follow this child molester around, throughout his days of freedom? To comply with the court order, that appears to be necessary.

One thing seems clear—for his felonies, this criminal will not have to pick up trash on the side of the road, mop floors, scrub toilets, and stare up at barbed wire. He will do nothing to pay for his vicious attacks on a terrified child, except for those twenty days in juvie. He’s free to enjoy his life, while his small victim lives in torment.

This double felon will not be punished by being taken out of society and losing his freedom. His little victim will not get justice.

Because our courtroom experts believe that, if he actually pays for his crimes, he will somehow be more likely to attack other helpless children. And that coddling and hugging him, and giving him freedom, will somehow keep him from acting on his compulsion for pedophilia—which is considered one of the most powerful and uncontrollable compulsions known to humanity.

At this point, medical research has found that the only treatment that shows any real promise for pedophilia is a hormone drug called Depo-Lupron. Pedophiles frequently have undiagnosed or untreated mental illness, as well, which also require medication. None of these factors were addressed in this case, however. Hugs and praise seemed sufficient.

When the molester is not in school, his is supposed to be directly supervised by adults who are aware of his crimes. Adults who, like the teachers, are supposed to keep this felon in line-of-vision eyesight at all times, whenever he could be around anyone two years younger than him, or “…any vulnerable person.”

According to the victim’s mother, the molester’s father works in Seattle and is gone thirteen hours a day. That counts Dad out as a supervisor for most of his son’s waking hours.

So—for the next two years—who will keep this child molester in line-of-vision, when the teachers and his father aren’t around? Who are these devoted miracle workers, with apparently nothing else to do?

And when this criminal’s two years of community supervision are up—then what?

The molester’s father stated that he and his son plan to soon spend ski season weekends teaching skiing at a Mt. Rainier resort.

Yup…that’s scaring him straight, all right.

Ski resorts generally have a zillion kids running around in every direction, inside and outside. Indoors, there are snack bars, fireplaces, lounging rooms, changing areas, bathrooms. Runabout room outside.

Parents seem to feel comfortable letting their kids have fun at ski resorts, without watching them every second. A ski resort is a nice place. It’s not like it’s Second and Pike in downtown Seattle.

Or is it?

Is every parent now supposed to ask if their kids’ ski instructor is also a confessed pedophile and a felon? And even if they do ask—what if the law prevents concerned parents from learning about that ski instructor’s sordid criminal acts against a most vulnerable victim?

By law, I’m not allowed to put this double felon’s name in this article. In accordance with the same law—concerned parents don’t have access to this kid’s criminal record, either.

Who Trusts the System Now?

If you really want to know what is going on, don’t ask someone whose paycheck depends on the answer.

Watch the average, ordinary person. And when you’re dealing with children’s safety, watch the average, ordinary mom. They have that sixth sense, even when they don’t know the details.

It used to be that moms only brought the littlest boys into their public bathrooms with them. In recent years, though, I have noticed that more mothers are bringing progressively older boys into the women’s bathrooms with them. Not creepy Norman Bates’ moms. Regular moms are doing it.

Because the regular moms just don’t trust the system anymore. They don’t trust those in power to listen to them. They know that, when it comes to their children’s safety, the decision-makers are more likely to listen to the experts who have their own ball in play—rather than to the ordinary mom.

The ordinary mom who pays the taxes to support the very system that she doesn’t even trust to put her children’s safety before the rights of sick, dangerous criminals.

Maybe mom really does know best.

UPDATE – The molester’s sex offender level was changed from a Level I to a Level II, two weeks after this article was published. The Thurston County Sheriff’s Office has identified him on their website. The link is below:

Tahoe Wiseman’s Sex Offender Notification




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